Welcome to DTP: Woodland Hills, CA
About Divorce Transition Professionals (DTP)
Why 2.0? Well, after 10 years it is time for a change. A change in location, a change in format and a change in the design. So, we're bringing in a top-notch speaker, holding it in a top-notch location, providing all of the networking and business opportunity you could ask for with some of the best professionals in the community that specializes in working with people dealing with divorce. While this particular meeting may not have all of the following, we expect to provide continuing education, networking, study groups, break-out sessions, case consultations and more......
This event is completely free to all FIRST TIME attendees. It is an opportunity to find out what the Divorce Transition Professionals is all about, what it is about to become and how becoming a member will benefit you. So, if you are a professional in the divorce field i.e. Attorney, Accountant, Financial Professionals, CDFA, Mediator, Therapist, Realtor, Mortgage Broker etc.....please attend and check us out. There is nothing like us in the area currently.
This Month's Program
"Navigating Separation During the Holidays: A Balancing Act for Families,"
An interactive panel discussion moderated by the inimitable Robert Glucroft
He is joined by two of our best
Therapist Kathy Memel and Attorney Esther Bitar
(please see their bios at the bottom of this page)
In this session, we will explore how couples with children can decide whether to separate during the holiday season or wait until after. We understand that this is a difficult decision and aim to provide insights and guidance to help families through this challenging time.
Our objective is to examine the positives and negatives of two key choices: separating during the holidays or waiting until after. By doing so, we hope to help families make informed decisions.
• Separating During the Holidays
- Immediate Relief: Separating during the holidays can provide immediate relief from ongoing conflicts and tension, creating a more peaceful environment for children.
- New Beginnings: This choice allows families to start new traditions and experiences, helping them adjust to the changes.
- Professional Support: During the holiday season, more support services like therapists and counselors may be available to assist families during this transition.
- Emotional Overload: The holiday season is emotionally charged, and a separation during this time could heighten feelings of sadness, loss, or confusion for children.
- Logistical Challenges: It can be more complicated to manage where the children will spend their holidays, splitting time, and coordinating exchanges during this period.
- Social Stigma: Extended family and friends may ask more questions, adding to the stress and anxiety of the separation.
• Part II: Waiting Until After the Holidays
- Maintaining Traditions: Waiting allows families to maintain holiday traditions, providing a sense of comfort and stability for children.
- Planning Time: It offers couples time to carefully plan the separation process, considering legal, financial, and emotional aspects in a more organized manner.
- Reduced Stress: It may reduce immediate holiday stress, allowing for a more "normal" celebration, though underlying tensions may still exist.
- Prolonged Conflict: Delaying separation may mean prolonging an unhealthy environment filled with conflicts, which could adversely affect the children.
- Confusion: Maintaining a semblance of unity during the holidays might create confusion for children when the separation eventually occurs.
- Personal Strain: The decision to wait might add emotional and psychological strain on the couple, knowing that the separation is impending.
Conclusion and Open Discussion
In conclusion, we have explored the complexities of deciding whether to separate during the holidays or wait until after. It's important to remember that every family's situation is unique. We encourage supportive and respectful dialogue from the audience, and we open the floor for personal insights, experiences, and additional points.
When making such decisions, it is crucial to prioritize the well-being of the children and the family as a whole. We remind participants that every family's journey is unique and that various resources and support systems are available to navigate these challenging times.
Kathy Memel LMFT Phd
If each of us took a step towards COOPERATION and learning NEW COMMUNICATION SKILLS, we would be a part of ELEVATING CONSCIOUSNESS and creating a paradigmatic shift in the world of Divorce, for your family today, and for future families.
When I graduated college, I went to work for a Divorce Attorney who taught me to be a Paralegal in Family Law. I assisted in handling approximately 40 divorces a month for 5 years, and had first hand experience in seeing how emotionally and financially destructive the litigation system can be to couples and their children.
I subsequenty obtained a Masters Degree in Marriage & Family Counseling and a Ph.D in Psychology, with the explicit goal of blending Psychology with my prior Divorce experience. Further, I worked at Conciliation Court for the Los Angeles Superior Court, helping families prepare workable Parenting Plans customized in the best interests of their children. I was determined to be a part of helping families:
a) Supportive, Caring & Confidential;
b) It's important to help families understand their emotional family patterns of behavior. This is looked at from a position of understanding, not blame or criticism. Once you understand a learned behavior, you then have choice to change it.
c) Parents who Mediate can cooperatively create a Parenting Plan that's in the best interests of their children.
d) No Court Appearances Necessary
e) 80% - 90% LESS $$$, Time & Stress
f) Work through the grief and loss of this very painful process, and eventually rediscover yourself and move forward in creating a new life with dignity and respect.
All this is possible and healthier in Mediation.
(However, when there are issues of violence, abuse, addiction or severe mental illness, the court system may possibly be the only alternative.)
No two families are alike, and each person in a family is unique. A consultation can help you determine what is best for your family.
Esther Bitar, Attorney at Law
DTP Woodland Hills Chapter Leader
Douglas J. Wolf
Douglas J. Wolf, A Professional Law Corporation
Phone: (818) 888-0033
Douglas Wolf understands that dissolving a marriage is one of life’s most traumatic events. Learning how to co-parent, deal with division of property, and moving on to establish one’s own life presents challenges. How one goes about dealing with these issues is of paramount concern. Do you allow the courts to resolve your differences or do you work together in insuring that each of you controls the outcome of your life?
Douglas has practiced law exclusively in the area of family law and dependency law for over thirty five years. Located in Woodland Hills, Douglas Wolf is an experienced litigator, but takes much pride in working with parties either in a collaborative environment or as a mediator in assisting clients work through the many issues that arise in a dissolution of marriage or in its aftermath. He is one of a limited number of attorneys certified as a collaborative lawyer. His office represents clients regarding child custody and visitation issues, child support and spousal support issues, and property issues.
DTP President & Founder
The Wealth Creator Company For Women
Phone: (818) 606-7327
Neil Palache is dedicated to empowering women as is shown by his involvement in many community and business organizations such as the National Association of Women Business Owners Ventura County, Women’s Economic Ventures and the International Women’s Festivals Santa Barbara. He has also started several groups such as the Money Mastermind for Women™ and the Divorce Transition Professionals™. Neil has been married to Stacie since 1987, has three beautiful children and lives and works in Westlake Village, California.